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Missing Friday 9/5/08 - Lackawanna, NY - Etidal Abdullah - please help!

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 in response to sheshe030...   

I understand completely. But as I said they are a very tightly knit community - think of it as one big family. - A VERY large family.

I do wish other disappearances were given the same amount of news time and police attention - not to mention the attention it has garnered on the web.

I hope no one has to go through this - EVER. I can't imagine the pain - even anger and frustration. But you do brign up a very good point - why isn't every disappearance given the same attention? 

I understand the amount of resources it would take (unimaginable!) and there are websites ( including our own page here) plus the amber alerts. But I was thinking, there are tv stations for everything from basketball to televangelists -why not have one station devoted to missing persons? Think about it. 1 station airing missing persons 24/7 across the US and canada. Why hasn't this been done? 

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 in response to W H O ~ K N E W...   

Reply to who-knew--I understand the frustration of the family, not knowing the whereabouts of their daughter. I too am the mother of 2 daughters. I can also understand how her fiance must feel being ditched for another man. If this young woman is safe and well and  with whom she wants to be with it is very selfish of her not to contact her family and tell them so. It is to bad this much attention is not given to the thousands of runaways and missing children and adults in the rest of our country. I have never heard of so much commotion over one missing young adult woman in my life. If it were one of my daughters I'm sure I would be lucky to make a bleep on my local news or newspaper. I'm not being sarcastic or snied, Iam just saying it like it is. I do wish her well and safe.    sheshe030

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 in response to DeeNeecy...   

I understand your frustration with yemeni's comment. What is very difficult for us, as americans, to understand is that the muslim community is very closely knit and very rich in honor and tradition.

Correct me if I am wrong, here: it is my understanding ( from news reports) that Etidal was promised to be married to a young man from Yemen ( as is their custom). No, this was not arranged without her consent. However, if she had an american boyfriend while she was engaged to another man, it would dishonor her family because she had thereby broken the engagement - it is very similar to breaking an american contract. I know it soulnds very business-like however, the muslim women are raised in this tradition, but it is ultimately their choice whom they choose to marry. You must understand, these are not ignorant people. They are very well educated - both in muslim religion/tradition and the american way of life.

IF Etidal left of her own free will and it was NOT a kidnapping/missing person situation, then yes, she would have dishonored her family - IF she left with a boyfriend. 

However, as it stands, according to news reports, she supposedly made a call to the  police claiming to be fine and wanting to be left alone. BUT the police will not close the case until they speak with her in person and they can see for themselves that she is ok. 

At this point the family has few answers and I can only imagine their frustration. Everyone wants her home safely. However, if she chose to leave, then she should have been an adult and acted as such. Now, it is up to her to alleviate everyone's fears.

Whatever the case may be, we all want her to be safe. 

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 in response to yemeni...   

I have heard them too and I hope they are true. I pray she returns home safely. I understand what it is like to be young and impetuous, if I had listened to my parents my life would be totally different today. But I didn't, and I have my share of regrets. If this is the case with Etidal, I pray she listens to the wisdom of her parents and family and comes home soon. Sometimes our families see what we choose not to.

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 in response to yemeni...   

I cannot believe someone would be worried about a person "dishonoring" their "family"...

Maybe she is being held against her will... maybe she had a reason to run from her family... only she knows right now... who knows, maybe her family has "dishonored" her....

I pray she is healthy and happy...  


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we have heard the news reports, that she has since called the lakawanna police dept. and notified them that she is fine, and that she doesnt want to be found. I pray to god that she doesnt dishonor her family. and i aso pray for her return.


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 in response to KathrynK...   

According to the latest news, a person claiming to be Etidal has called the police and told them to stop looking for her. The family has heard the tape and said that it was Etidal. However, the police are not ruling out that she may have made the call under duress. They are keeping the investigation open as a missing person, until she proves to them in person, that she is unharmed.

 In answer to your questions, yes the police have viewed the footage from the security cameras, which only show her leaving the store - nothing more.  Additionally, family and friends have been circulating flyers around the city.

 I have been trying to circulate the information online where they may have missed - myspace, live journal, etc..But they have everything pretty much covered. (craigs list, you tube...) Actually, I have never seen such a thorough canvassing  by a local community ( online and local) before in my life. It is amazing to see so many people work together toward a common goal. I think there are about 8-10 pages on google, of sites searching for this young woman. 

I, too pray for her safe return. And I want to thank everyone for their help and prayers. I hope that no harm has come to this beautiful young woman and she returns home safely, soon. Or at the very least, contacts her family directly, to alleviate their fears. 

Thank you.  

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God Bless the family of Etidal Abdullah. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

Are there video cameras in the Sav-A-Lot store or parking lot? Have the police looked at the video footage?

Have you handed out flyers in the Sav-A-LOt parking lot or anywhere else that Etidal might go.

We will pray for Etidal quick return to her family. 




Talk to KathrynK

Sometimes I believe this is a horrible world in which we all have to live!!    I hope this beautiful young lady if found safe and sound!!   God bless, and my prayers are with her and her family!!

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Prayers being said for the safe and swift return of this young woman to her family.

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